The first look: yes, no, or maybe so?

Planning your wedding day timeline comes with a lot of decisions- but one of the biggest (and most emotional) is whether or not to do a First Look. As wedding photographers, we get asked this all the time. So today, lets break down the pros and cons of doing a First Look so you and your partner can decide what feels right for your day.

First, what is a first look?

A First Look is a private (or semi-private) moment where the couple sees each other before the ceremony. It’s usually beautifully set up with just the two of you (and your photographer), capturing that raw reaction in a quiet, intimate space. Easy, right? Now let’s get into the pros and cons part of it…

The Pros: (aka what your photographer is low key hoping convinces you to say yes to the First Look lol)

1. You Get a Private Moment Together

Aside from sunset photos, this might be the only time you two get alone all day. A First Look gives you space to breathe, calm your nerves and take in the moment without a whole crowd watching. A major benefit during this private moment is the chance to read your vows privately. You get to express your deepest feelings without the pressure of a crowd watching- just the two of you, fully present, sharing the moment authentically. It's intimate, emotional, and lets you connect on a deeper level before the day sweeps you up.

2. More Flexibility with your timeline

First Looks allow you to knock out a big chunk of your photos before the ceremony- think couples portraits (if you plan on skipping sunset photos), bridal party, and sometimes even family shots. That way, after the “I do’s,” you can head straight to cocktail hour and actually enjoy it.

3. It Eases Nerves

If you’re someone who gets anxious with all eyes on you, seeing your partner ahead of time can calm your nerves and make walking down the aisle feel a little less overwhelming.

4. Yes, Emotional Reactions Are Still Magical!

Worried it’ll “ruin the aisle moment”? Trust me- it wont! If anything, you get two special moments instead of one. I’ve seen grooms cry during the First Look and again when the bride walks down the aisle.

The Cons:

1. It Breaks Tradition

If you’re a traditionalist or you’ve always dreamed of seeing each other for the first time at the alter, A First Look might not feel right for you. And that totally okay! Remember this is your day and you get to choose what feels perfect for you.

2. You Might Need to Start Hair & Makeup Earlier

Because you’ll be taking photos a little earlier in the day, your glam schedule will need to start earlier too. This is always a huge deal breaker, but it’s something to consider when planning your morning.

3. Lighting and Weather Can Be a Factor

Depending on your wedding date and venue, the lighting might be harsh during the middle of the day when the First Look typically happens (usually a little before your ceremony start time). But don’t stress- your photographer will always make sure to scout the best location and time to make sure you get the most flattering light possible.

If you’ve made it this far and still having a hard time choosing, thats okay! Long story short, I love First Looks for the calm they bring to the day- especially for the couples who don’t love being the center of attention. It also gives us more time for dreamy portraits without the pressure of a ticking clock.

But at the end of the day, Remember that this moment is yours.

Whether you choose a First Look or wait until the ceremony, the emotion will be there (peek the photos below). It’s about what feels most you and trust me when I say- thats all that matters to your photographer and other awesome vendors.

- Lisa Marie

Your third wheel with a camera <3